Aloha and thank you for showing interest in the New Horizons Relationship 911 retreat. Mark and Kelli Turansky are known for their practical “workshop” style of counseling that helps couples understand what the problem is, and how to fix it in a very short amount of time. Mark is regarded as “Guy Friendly” which means men gravitate towards his teaching style because he can relate to where they may have a difficulty in understanding their partner. Kelli has a unique ability to connect with women so they can feel understood and then guided towards success. One common complaint we get from couples who have tried traditional counseling is in their experience, counselors “take sides” with one of the spouses which ultimately sabotages safety and good will that is needed for lasting change to take place. Kelli and Mark realize that all relationship problems are “co-created” and therefore help couples understand what each of them can be empowered to do to make changes in the overall dynamic.
The Format: We start with developing awareness: awareness of what is REALLY going on, what your issues and baggage are and how they are affecting your current relationship. Then we move towards the solution: Now that we know the problem, what do we do about it? Mark and Kelli teach a new paradigm of having discussions called “Heart Talk” that is designed to deal with conflict without denigrating into useless arguments. These practical “tools” will help couples flourish in their quest for intimacy and closeness and help rekindle the passion that has many times diminished in long term relationships over time.
- In the retreat, you would be working with two counselors, one male and one female. We believe this creates a good balance in the room to allow each gender to be supported.
- In the retreat, you will stay in a home on the North Shore of Oahu to enjoy a respite get-away near the beach; both food and lodging are part of the experience.
- At this three-day retreat, our first evening together is enjoying a meal family style and then we will spend the rest of the evening getting to hear your perspectives on what the challenges are. This allows us more time to assess how we can help. The second day is the workshop done “seminar style” where you will get valuable teaching to help you update your perspective of each other as well as the relational dynamic. The third and final day will be the “practicum” where we will do hands-on coaching using the new communication styles you have been taught.
- The main benefit of doing a retreat, as opposed to traditional in office counseling, is “immersion.” A couple immerses themselves in the total experience. Leaving behind the distractions of home, they “get away from it all” and concentrate only on their relationship for the entire weekend by taking walks on the beach, talking in their room or relaxing together without going home to kids, emails, chores and other distractions that life demands. For most, the value of immersion is immeasurable.
To read testimonials from others who have benefitted from this retreat, click here - https://www.newhorizonshawaii.com/relationship-911-testimonials
To book a retreat, here is what you need to do:
- Secure a date. Call now for calendar info: 808-484-1000
- Payment - In order to reserve your spot you will need to make payment. ($5,000.00 plus tax)
Payment: You can use any credit/debit card at using the following payment portal: https://www.paypal.com/ncp/payment/JNP7ZFLS35L2Q
3. Registration paperwork - Send an email to: newhorizonshawaii@gmail.com and we will email your registration forms in fillable PDF format. Please fill out and return.
Cancellation policy: Because the venue is prepaid and we are blocking out our calendars for you, there will be no refunds within 3 weeks of your reserved date unless you can find a couple to take your spot.
When numbers 1-3 are complete, I will send a confirmation email with more details about checking in on your first day and what to bring. Please make sure to fill out your goals for the retreat on the main registration form at the bottom.
I am confident that the New Horizons Relationship 911 retreat will help you to deepen your love and devotion for each other. Please come prepared to engage in the process of change by incorporating a spirit of humility and a teachable attitude.
Sincerely,
Mark Turansky CSAC, ICRC
Kelli Turansky - Executive Director
(808)484-1000
Relationship 911 Intensive Schedule
FIRST EVENING
Arrival - check in to your room not before 5pm and at least by 6pm to get settled
6:30 - Dinner - We will enjoy a family style, sit down for dinner with you, your spouse and my wife and I.
7pm - Orientation - We will spend a couple of hours that first evening explaining what we are going to accomplish and how we are going to do that and also give you a chance to express your concerns and frustrations about your relationship.
SECOND and THIRD DAY
9:00 – First session begins
12:00 – lunch (provided as part of your tuition)
1:00 – Afternoon session
5:00 - Sessions conclude
6:00 - Dinner (provided as part of your tuition for the first night and 5pm checkout for the final night)
EVENINGS - You will be able to retreat to your own private room to do evening assignments. Remember, this is an intensive so please plan to come ready to invest and do the hard work of change.
